I think we come to expect big, fancy, earth-shattering events to change our lives, sometimes for the better. But often it’s the smaller, less expected things that make a huge impact as well.
For the last few years, Josh worked a job with off hours (noon-8 PM), off days (Sunday-Thursday), and no off holidays. This is pretty normal for people who work in casinos, which are typically open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. I’m not complaining, because I complained plenty during all the Thanksgivings VA and I spent without him. Josh was a much better sport about it than I was, and I wasn’t the one breathing second-hand smoke all day long, including every, single holiday. I don’t want to underplay how grateful we were that he had a job that allowed him to complete a Master’s as well as help pay the mortgage, but adjusting to the schedule proved a challenge.
Two months ago, Josh started a new job where he not only uses the Master’s he earned and doing work he loves and believes in, he also has weekends and holidays off as well as paid vacation time. Although I knew I didn’t like him working all those days many people get off, I didn’t anticipate how much I love having him home full weekends and holidays. It’s changed our lives 100% for the better. Last weekend for example, Josh got to watch Virginia run in a 2.5K trail race, which was heaven for him. He can attend soccer tournaments. We can go to his parents’ house in New Jersey for the weekend, if we want. Weekend weddings and bar mitzvahs don’t kill us any more.
Oh, and did I mention he’s home for dinner, too? Yeah—his new hours, of the 8:30 AM-5:30 PM variety, means he’s home for dinner. He’s also in a better position to help out a lot more—trips to Target and the grocery store, carpool runs, barbeque dinners are all a lot more possible now that his time at work has shifted. So sure, big, fancy, earth-shattering events like Josh finally landing a job he enjoys and believes in are life changing in the best way. But I’m enjoying the smaller, less flashy perks that allow Virginia and me to spend more time together as a family.